Quado, do you have an answer to this
question? Ah,
yes, of course, of course.
I am proud to have
you on this Earth. The angels who surround you are proud of each and every
action you take, each time you draw another breath and step falteringly out on
the path of your life. You are surrounded by spirit and by helpers. You are
surrounded by guides who wish you well. You are surrounded by and fully
embraced by love, the unending love of the universe.
And you can feel this
love when you dip down into this moment, right now. When you sit alone in
nature and allow yourself for a moment to just appreciate the sky, study the
detail of a leaf. For this moment, you are, and in this being, you will find
your own perfection, you will feel the love which is there for you and the
deep loving and warm embrace of life.
And so, what you must do
is come here often. You must put as your highest priority in life, higher than
pleasing others, higher than accomplishing anything in particular, just
spending a little time each day, breathing, relaxing and feeling your own
oneness with the world, feeling who you are and how you fit into the scheme of
things. Just a few minutes each morning to calm your busy mind, enjoy a touch
of beauty and find a little peace. And then, as you go through your day, you
can remember it, you can reach back with a deep breath and return to that
brief moment of peace and joy and love you found in the morning.
And as life goes on and
you continue to do this for a few more months, a few more years, you can begin
to expand it and let more and more of your life find this calm space, this
place of being which is there for you. And some day, gradually and day by day,
you will find that you have achieved a sort of calm in the heart of your
existence.
Your purpose is to be
yourself. Your purpose is not to please others. It is to find the best and
fullest and widest expression of who you are. And in order to do this, you
will need to free yourself of the tyranny of trying to please everyone else.
Of course there are many who are delighted to have you dedicate your life to
them, and with children there is a certain point in their lives when it is, of
course, necessary. But as they grow older, you can free yourself a bit and
begin to explore who you are.
You will never please
other people, because you cannot fill their needs. Just as no one else can
truly fill your needs. You must please yourself. You must build inside a deep
core of being and truth and joy and peace, a core of self love and a deep
respect and honor of the person that you are. Your purpose is to be. That is
why you are here. Just to be. And in this being, to open up to all of the
talents and wonders that you are.
It is not possible to
live for others, hoping to get from them the recognition, praise and
appreciation you believe will make you happy. When you do this, you may appear
to be giving, but you are actually needy and trying to get. But it will not
work. You cannot get what you need to make yourself complete from anyone else,
nor can you give it to them. You must be yourself, centered and whole. And you
must ask that others do this as well, that they learn to complete themselves
and give themselves what they need.
Begin with loving and
respecting yourself, finding yourself in the quiet space of those morning
moments alone. Then out of this love and respect for yourself you will find
the strength to ask others to give you the respect you deserve, to treat you
well, to honor who you are. This is not the same as trying to please them, as
trying to get praise or recognition from them. All you are asking for is that
they allow you to be who you are. That they allow you to express yourself
honestly and live with integrity.
A true life of integrity
may not please anyone else at all. But it will please you. A life of integrity
is one in which you take the risk of displeasing others by speaking your own
truth, doing what you believe is right, living your life as a testament to
that feeling you have deep inside, that feeling that makes you feel calm and
whole and centered. That peaceful center inside that knows your truth.
And if you have not
reached this, if you do not know your own center, have not found your own
truth, then your focus must be, above all else, to spend the daily time
necessary to reach at least a little of this, just enough to learn to
recognize when you have reached the core of truth within you, the place where
you feel who you are really are.
This seed inside you,
that feeling of peace in your solar plexus, that place you reach when you
close your eyes for a moment , take a deep breath and listen to the sound of a
bird, this place is the foundation for everything else good which will come
out of your life. It is the place where you learn to know yourself. It is the
place where you begin to give yourself the love and appreciation you have been
trying to get from others. It is the answer to everything which is troubling
you.
And you have a right to
demand this of the people in your life, to demand a few minutes every day of
peace and quiet, a few minutes in which you can be alone in your own space,
breathing deeply, feeling who you are, just being the wonderful person you
truly are deep inside.
Find yourself. Be
yourself. Express yourself. Find the courage to dig deep and then bring out
the wonderful, quirky, different and odd things that you are. Glow all over
with who you are, no matter what anyone else thinks. Shine out in your wonder.
Go deeply inside and find that glow, that fire, that wonder that is you.
Then your life begins to
be a true gift to others, for then you are lighting the world up with your own
glow. You are not trying to get from others, because you have everything. You
are not trying to complete yourself because you recognize your own wholeness.
You do not have to please anyone, because there is nothing you need from them
in return. You are. And that is what you are meant to be.
About the Author:
Carrie Hart is the author of There is a Garden, the story of her
spiritual journey from stressed executive to spiritualist and channeler of
Quado. This book, Carrie’s CDs of original music, as well as daily messages by
Quado are available on
www.carriehart.com.
Copyright 2004 by Systematique, Inc.
