How do you really feel about compromise? In speaking with several friends
and clients recently, most people’s first reactions to the idea of compromise
were slightly on the negative side. “I don’t like giving in, it makes me feel
like I’m giving up something that’s important to me, why should I have to lose
in order for someone else to gain?” Interesting!
While it is true that establishing a compromise between two people may
involve making concessions, let’s take a closer look at what healthy
compromise really means by breaking it down. Com-Promise is literally… a
Mutual Promise. Two or more people who share a common goal will each have
their own ideas on how to best manifest that goal and sometimes the means to
achieving the end will appear radically different. If we focus on the
differences in details, rather than keeping our eyes firmly on the shared goal
in the big picture, then we begin to resist compromise. Needing to be right
all the time (whatever that means!) is another big-time blocker. So the first
step is to be sure that we share a basic mutual focus and desire.
Now let’s examine the Promise part of the
equation. A promise may be considered a vow, to do or not do. Promise also
brings with it, Expectation… usually for a positive outcome, as in “a
promising opportunity.” And for most people, a promise also implies a
Commitment. A commitment to what? The highest good and betterment of all
concerned, also known as The Law of One. According to this law, there can be
no win-lose, only win-win… and herein lies the key to harnessing the positive
power of compromise to achieve harmony in any relationship.
Music is a wonderful example, just watch and
listen to any skilled piano player. The left hand is laying down the rhythm
while the right hand is expressing an exquisite melody. Each hand may not be
playing the exact same notes, but that is perfectly fine. Both hands have
agreed to abide by the chosen key and time signature of the piece and to play
notes which are in harmony with each other. Within those basic agreements,
there are an unlimited number of songs that the pianist can compose. If the
pianist is also a singer, she can even add her voice as a third complementary
component, all playing seemingly different parts, yet creating a synergy of
sound that immediately excites your emotions into a feeling of uplifting
beauty.
So let’s come back now to your
relationships. Even in the face of obstacles or differences of opinion, what
melody can you play that will complement the rhythm your partner is playing?
Have you agreed to both play in the key of C? Even if you’re in the mood for
rock and roll and your partner is into classical, keep an open mind! Just look
at the success of some of the greatest rock bands who have joined together
with an orchestra and sold millions of albums.
You can create new dynamics in your
relationships just as easily as composing a new little ditty. When you think
of some of your favorite songs that make you feel good, they usually contain
some basic components. A beat that inspires you to move, happy words to sing
along with, room for a little saxophone solo, and maybe a full-bodied chorus
that brings it all together. Is there a mate, business partner or child in
your life you’d like to share a new tune with? Are you ready to step up to the
mike and share your authentic feelings?
So let’s review our Mutual (Com)-Promises:
1. We invoke The Master Within to guide all our
relations.
2. We look for the common desire or beauty we
both share.
3. We affirm our total commitment to a win-win
experience.
4. We listen with sensitivity and express without
censoring.
5. If we’re actually having fun, we are on the
right track!
When you’re committed to making beautiful
music with everyone you meet, the perfect arrangement of sounds will magically
come forth from the strings of your Heart. If you need help tuning up before
you begin playing, that’s what I’m here for, just give me a call. Who doesn’t
love a free-flowing smooth jazz duet or acapello singers? Be the instrument
through which the Harmony of Source flows, you may even win a Grammy for Best
New Relationship!
About the Author:
Robert Moonsong is a clairvoyant spiritual healing medium and channel for
the 77 Unified Masters of Light. Utilizing voice alchemy and direct telepathic
energy transmission, he offers DNA crystal activations and Emotional Freedom
healing sessions worldwide by telephone. www.RobertMoonsong.com or call toll
free 1-877/ NOW-HEAL.
